Three simple tools to live our purpose

life purpose

Here we are again, talking about our purpose – the big question of life.

We often make finding our purpose more complicated  than it is. We’re looking all the way inside overseas caves whilst our purpose is just in front of us. We expect that the reason we are here, would involve travelling the world (for some people it does), or saving lives in conflict areas (again, it is, for some). But truly, our purpose does not have to be dramatic. Our purpose is just – to live as authentic us.

And what is it, authentic us?

1. Check what do you love?

I always believe that we are down here on earth equipped with a “map”. Our soul knows where to go, we only need to listen to this inner gps system. When we are on the right road, our soul is flowing free, we feel happy, we feel alive.

2. Check what do we fear?

People who are on their path, look happy – but it does not mean that they don’t face challenges. At times, it will be challenging to choose the right path. Sometimes it is easier to stay in the comfort zone, and avoiding the discomfort to choose the authentic path. Sometimes our mind tricks us by saying that this is our intuition saying that it is not the right step. Is it? My personal trick to catch myself in this is, to ask myself if this is fear, where I feel it. Ask my heart of how I feel about choosing the brave road. Then ask my heart of how I feel about choosing the safe road. Every time, I will see it clearly after this session.

3. Always listen, and adjust.

In summary, it’s really like having a gps in the car. So we listen (or see) if in any moment we need to make a turn. Our soul is telling us this. It might come as new opportunities, it might be a negative feeling – such as disappointment, a feeling of lost, unhappiness or even a dream. Then proceed to the start again to number 1 and 2 and continue. Life is actually pretty easy. The problem is we are making it complicated with our fear and we miss the signs!

Enjoy your purpose, and have fun!

xoxo

 

 

Life, living it fearlessly and truthfully

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“You can’t do this forever”

About life. Best friends are those who can give us food of thoughts for us to reflect. But then still respects us for whatever decisions we make for our life.

Therefore I am grateful when I received that comment from one of mine a few days ago. It left me wondering. Really? I can’t do this forever?

Are we living the right life?

So what my bestie meant  by “this” is this life style I live. Living a life out of the ordinary. That is a life which is not following the mainstream or some social set-value of how we work and live. So here I am. Over forty years old, travelling, earning money through diving, yoga and writing. It’s not my interest to buy a mansion or a fast car. Truly, I am content with what I have and calling myself independent. I pay my expenses including my son’s. My lifestyle is quite comfortable. And although I have savings, I don’t worry about the future too much. What’s the point, I live now! So watching me goes by like this, brings a little anxiety to my dear friend who is blessed to have a life path of living in a normal way.

Are we a cookie-cutter version or are we authentic?

To know if you are on the right path, first ask your mind. Most people wants to bypass the mind – and go straight to their heart. But I always ask my mind first. I was asking myself there and then. What does my mind say about working 9-5 at an office? Then I ask the mind, what about having an ocean for an office? What does my mind say about where I am right now?

Then ask the heart! What does the heart say?

Tips to check if you live the right life authentically

If it feels right, it’s right

So that’s it. If your heart say it’s right, then it’s right. However, thank your mind for giving you the advice. Thank your friend for giving you a food of thought. Then be grateful that you are on your right path.

Remember that many people just live, and never be alive. Each of us has different purpose in life, and if you find yours – it does not matter what others are!

Have fun, and never let anything dim your sparkle.

Join me in my next adventure?

xoxo

 

How to practice “Namaste” off your mat

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Namaste. Such a fancy word in the end of a yoga class. The meaning of namaste more or less is that :

the Divine in me bow to the Divine in you.

How to practice Namaste, in this world?

To make it simple, in essence, we are soul. We are not this mind, ego, or even this physical body. We are all this love, or energy if you prefer. That’s the essence of us. This part of us that is divine. God. Universe. So, in realising this, we know that every single beings are just the same of us. In other words, we are no longer separating ourselves from the rest of the world. This is the peace feeling when we say namaste in the end of the yoga class. We just connect! By our nature, we are just yearn to connect.

The challenge is though, we need to keep this outside of the yoga studio. But surely our ego gets in the way. As soon as you walk out of the yoga studio, a minor situation can give you an urge to hit someone with your yoga mat! Because we are not connected anymore. How can we feel connected to those who are so different than us? Then, how can we feel connected to those who challenge us? Furthermore, how can we feel connected to those who attack our ego? These moments of separation are the source of our sufferings during the day, have you noticed?

So, through out the day we need to use our hearts and sense the core of others – and zip through the ego, the intellect, all the differences, and just connect to that space of spirits. Understand that the other being has light too. Remind ourselves of our lights.

5 Steps to keep the light within burning

  1. Believe and trust that we are this light
    Of course, this is the main thing. We must trust that we are this love, we are not the doubts, we are not the fear, we are not the anger. We are pure love. In a moment of difficulties, we can say to ourself: I am light.
  2. Be playful in your daily life, don’t take life too seriously
    Yes! Ignite the playfulness in yourself. Dance in the rain. Laugh. Take it easy!
  3. Get out of your comfort zone
    So, this one can be challenging for some people who are not naturally adventurous. Do something that you haven’t done. Of course, it doesn’t mean we have to sky jump tomorrow, but maybe we try a new dish, maybe we can go and talk with someone we don’t know, maybe we do a new sport, maybe we read something we don’t normally read.
  4. Connect with the nature, do something physical – sports, walk, swim in the ocean, gardening, any move.
    This one never fails! Go and see the sunset. Smell the flowers. Feel the grass. Look at the clouds. See how amazing this world is, and realise that we are magic too.
  5. Catch yourself and step back when you feel ungrounded.
    The more you practice this, the easier you catch yourself when you start losing that namaste feeling. So the key is practice. Then it’s all just take a breath and come back to centre.

Now I wish you a fantastic day, living an authentic life. Knowing clearly on who we really are, and claiming back our power of life!

xoxo

 

We are all psychic

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Yes, we are all psychic.

What is that? One of the definition of psychic is “appearing to have powers of telepathy or clairvoyance”.

We are all connected at one level – at the higher vibration. The core of our being is light, love, or divine. This is atman in yoga literature. Some would call it soul.  In another word, the more tangible word, it is energy.

So these energies are operating at psychic level, and they connect to one another, beyond space and linear time. And we all have this power. Hence you think of someone and that person will call you out of sudden. How common is this: “I was just thinking of you!”

Why it is important to recognise this ability

The main source of our suffering is that we allow the madness of the world to overshadow the light of our soul. Therefore we have a lot of desires. We have fears.  No wonder sometimes it seems like we are lost, and running around with no direction. But the light is all along in us! We forget that we have this ability to tap into the unlimited source of power and knowledge. When we are aware of this at all time, we will always know which way to go.

Connecting to the power of knowing

On the contrary to what we might think, it’s actually pretty simple to connect back to our true Self, and tapping into this tremendous source of knowledge. We only need to quiet our mind. Ah whaaat. Yes, so it is simple, but it is not that easy.

Practice meditation at least for 10 minutes a day. Take deep breaths. Then slowly lower your attention from your head to your heart. Imagine the emerald green colour is surrounding your heart. Feel the warmth. Keep breathing and keep your attention to your heart. Then, just listen, feel, know and see. The more we practice, the easier it becomes to receive this knowledge. In time, we would be able to do this anytime and anywhere. Have fun!

xoxo

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A glimpse of Akashic Record

Akashic Records

What is Akashic Record?

What is actually Akashic record? Akasa in Sanskrit or angkasa in Bahasa Indonesia means sky. So we can say literally it means a record in the “sky”.

Akashic record is basically a record of our soul journey through different lifetimes. Not just about the past though. The records can also reveal our future potential, the possibilities, depends on what kind of energy that we sent at present.

The Soul Journey Through Life Times

Many people, including me, know that our souls have multiple lives. Not all of us believe in reincarnation, and this “knowing feeling” is something that one cannot teach or force to the other. In my case, I have a lot of moments where it is unexplainable how I can connect to a place or to someone as if I have been there before, or as if I knew them before.

So assuming that we all agree on multiple lifetimes, now we dig deeper on what souls record during those lifetimes. In each of its lives, the soul strive to grow and learn. In the end of its life, we  – as the soul, our higher Self – will decide on the next “adventure” to have in the next life.

The Connection Between Life Times

Although they seems to be separated, these lives are connected. We carry a bit of each lessons, traumas, joys with us to the next life. Sometimes, we feel stuck in a particular aspect of life and we don’t know why. This is when our knowledge of Akashic record can be useful for our present – and bringing full possibilities to our future.  Using the record, we can look back and clear up the repeated unwanted energy.

Remember that all of the less favourable events, are not punishments from the Heaven. These events are merely lessons that our souls want to go through to be able to grow. If we able to learn the lesson before the big event needs to happen, we can change the future and avoid those challenging events.

So now we know a glimpse about Akashic records. Let’s stay tune for the next posts where we will go deeper about our records.

xoxo

Energy; Tips on how to keep it light.

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Good energy? What is it?

We are not going to complicate the concept of energy in this article. Good and bad energy are as simple as how we feel. Good energy is what makes us feel good such as happiness, excitement, contentment, hopeful and so on. It feels light. Bad energy is what makes us feel uncomfortable, such as sadness, anger, disappointment, shame, worthlessness and so on. It feels heavy. We want to keep the light, because it keeps us filled with love. With love, it easier to be on higher vibration, closer to the bliss that yoga meant to be.

Isn’t it normal?

Yes, having alternate good or bad is normal for human beings like us. During our lifetime, we would encounter some challenges which might bring some heavy feelings. However, it is preferable that we stay light, and spread the light. But we cannot do this by pushing the heavy feelings down. Instead, we should acknowledge it, accept it, and then – the challenge is – to let it go.

So these feelings can come from ourselves, but it also comes from the outside. Think of a moment when we are in a room full of sad people. Or in a demonstration full of angry people. We might feel something heavy. Because feelings  – can affect many many other people.

How to deal with our feelings and others

We are not trying to push down any uncomfortable feelings. So the first thing to do is that we accept them. Because by accepting, this feeling usually becomes detached and we can let it go.

Once the feeling is gone, we can imagine a pink light surrounds us. Imagine this light comes deep into your heart and gives love. Only love. No other feeling.

When the attack comes from outside. We can still use this concept.  Imagine the pink light protects us from any negative feelings that others are experiencing. Then slowly emanates the pink light towards ourself. Imagine it fills us with love. After that, slowly imagine the pink light also emanates love to people surrounds you. See than the light starts to fill and surrounds everyone, changing the darkness into light.

If the event is tremendous, we might feel lingering negative energy days afterwards. Remember to change clothes after a visit to hospital, prison, funerals, house or office with conflicts or any gathering where anger or sadness might be in the air. I’d go as far as washing my hair too.

After days, if it persists, jump into the ocean. That never fails to clear up energy. Don’t fear the bad feelings. Spread the love.

xoxo

 

Our Dance in Death and Birth

Dancing in death and birth

Death – and birth, being born and dying, are the mysteries of life.

But no matter how we try to capture the mysteries of death and birth, there is always something that we miss to understand. Of course, it is too complex to understand for our mind, and our Truth knows that there are no coincidence in life.

 

I have just lost two of my friends because they died in a silly road accident in this country. I said silly, because it is just so unlikely. The event is just so out of the ordinary. It is like the Universe conspire to take them out of this life this way.

They are my supporters in my current difficult moment, and they have been trying to help in a way they can. So this weekend, one day I spent time with (one of) them, and the next day,  puff, gone. The mystery of death and birth doesn’t stop there. We have our own path. Our mind cannot explain the coincidence of the chains of events, how if one thing would be different, it might have change the whole picture. How us – human beings – connect and meet one another is some normal situation, which in the end proven to be crucial to the next life events.

Death and birth according to Buddha:

The Universe and its inhabitants are as ephemeral as the clouds in the sky;

Beings being borns and dying are like a spectacular dance or drama show.

The duration of our lives is like a flash of lightning or a firefly’s brief twinkle;

Everything passes like the flowing waters of a steep waterfall.

The Universe is under no obligation to make sense to us. 

said the scientist Neil deGrasse Tysson.  So I told my mind to stop trying to understand, and turn into my Self to feel all universal connection. We are just dancing. Just dancing in this universe, facing birth and death and being home in between. My two friends are just doing their dance. For the rest of us, be strong.

xoxo

The True Meaning of Being Fearless in Life

Life Purpose

Recently I was interviewed by Joshua Kangley’s book 7 Principles of Success.

And how amazing it is, to realise that we both are coming from different background and living different lives and in different continent – yet, we talk about exactly the same thing: Life Purpose.  This is a topic that is interesting to anyone walking the spiritual path. No, let me rephrase it; Finding our Life Purpose is a topic that is interesting for anyone who have a lot of curiosity about their meaning of life, about what the purpose of this life is.

Whether or not we agreed on what yoga means to each of us, we are creature of curiosity. We ask questions. Then we demand answer of why we are here on this life. Looking for this answer, we travel across oceans and rivers and climbing mountains to find the answer. Screaming to the world, what is my life purpose? Almost in irony, we actually find this big life answer inside us.

Why it is difficult for us to see our Life Purpose

Deep inside, we have fear.  Yes, that’s it. We are full of fear to see and live the truth.  What we presume as success in life can be quite different than what the Universe assigns us. The success of our life is not being a billionaire, a perfectly form woman,  a super mother or any other roles.

It scares us to see that in order to follow our path, we need to be out of the box. Fear floods us with what if stories. What would my peer thinks? What would my big family say? How would I sustain my life?

Our souls are not giving it up when we steer away from our path. It jolts, and complains. Our intuitions tell us, scream at us. Under the shadow of fears, we ignore all these signals. Until it is too late.

And we are wondering why there is an empty space. How come life feels so dull. How come our heart is not bubbly with happiness. Then to make it worse, we start to look around and compare ourselves with others. How come that person seems happier? Maybe if I lose that amount of weight, I will be happier. Maybe if I earn as much as that person, I will be happier. And on and on, we are stuck in the darkness and feel lost in life.

Get Back on Your Designated Life Purpose Track

How? Throw your fear away, and walk your destiny.  What others do, does not matter! It is each of us, on our own path that matters. Be brave. Sadly, we will encounter individuals who try to dim our light to our path.

I have a personal experience that I don’t mind to share here to explain fearless concept. In the past months, I trusted a person who tried to put me down in a way it is incredible. So, I used to love writings and I know it is something that I do quite well – although still learning. Furthermore, I had a lot of fantastic opportunities with my words, from blogs to articles in local paper. But she managed to dim my light to writings with her comments, convinced me that I don’t belong in the ocean. This person managed to dim my whole soul. I wiggled free from this trusty person, and it took a lot of courage.

Freedom from fear now.

Best of it, I have no negative feelings towards the person, because in the end you can’t control what others do to you, you can only control your reaction. I am writing on the ocean side at this moment, feeling happiness in my veins. We need to be brave enough to evaluate people in  our lives, and brave enough to wiggle free if they pull you into a wrong direction. Trust, there are a lot of people out there full of – you know what – because they are afraid themselves. But remember to halt any negative feelings towards those who try to dim our light. Spread your lights.

Meanwhile, I am back on track, although I have to spend some extra miles in bumpy road due to my detour. How do we know we are on the right track? Oh we know! Our souls tell us, smile to us. Despite anything that happen, our soul will be happy. We walk the right path. We learn the lessons that we assigned to learn in our life charts – which is our plan for this lifetime. We’ll talk about life chart another time.  What’s important now is to close our eyes. Ask our souls bravely: Are we lost, or are we on track.

xoxo

Friday Night Yogi Survival Tips

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Hiya my Friday night owls yogis,

Yogi should not go out in Friday night? Really? I’m a truly believer that we are here on our own purpose, walking our own path.  Because most of us live in modern world,  not in stereotyped yogi lifestyle living in a cave, we have to find a way to live our path truthfully – even in the madness of modern lifestyle. I don’t call it balance, because balance means you do something plus and then something minus and balance the both. What I mean, is tip-toeing through your social life as authentic as you can.

Solitary or Social are both okay

If you come to my retreats on Fridays, most likely after arriving on the destination and doing some ocean play and asana, you’ll be tired in the evening and go to sleep early! If you work and come home and you meditate all night, congratulations. But if you have some social responsibilities – meeting friends, colleagues, or family, that is also okay.  No judgement here.

I personally do not go out that often, I really enjoy sitting in with my books. Yes, and do some works on meditation, asana, all these stuff.  There are nights though which is typically on Friday night –  that I go out with my friends and do some social activities. This will involve music, dancing, drinks, dinner, and a lot of chit chat with people. All these things that does not really correlate with yogic life style. Or is it? Can you maintain your true identity while going out? Yes, you can, and let’s talk about it.

Surviving Friday Night Tips.

First thing first.

The energy that we meet. Usually there are a lot of people in Friday night scenes. So there will be various kinds of energy – and these are not always awesome. To protect you from all of these energy madness, do a short meditation before you go. Ground yourself. Sit up tall. If you sit on a chair, make sure both feet are on the ground. Imagine you have deep root growing down into the earth. Then surround yourself with white white, this is your cocoon.

During the night, if we feel energetically attacked – any kind of negative feelings: fear, worries, angry – remember your cocoon and protect yourself in it again.

Then the drinks.

As a dive instructor, I often joke that I know how to drink and not get drunk. I actually do! The secret? No alcohol. Ha. Drinks are the first thing we have to control, because the higher the amount of alcohol in our body, the less sensitive we are to the energy surrounding us. Thus we might be late to put us back in the cocoon. I usually simply take soda water, putting some lemon slices in it, most people would think you are having vodka. 😉

The dinner.

Truly, there are always options. Whatever your diet is, do not go crazy on Friday night dinner, or you’ll crash to bed feeling like puffed up potato.  When I know there won’t be any meal option that I can take, I often have my pre Friday night dinner first. But honestly, there are options. From salad, to plain rice, to chopped carrots!

Finally, we are going to enter the most difficult one.

The people we meet. In many occasions I always manage to find someone who always talk about someone else. Hence, it is called gossiping. The energy can feel sharp and pierce. This can linger for hours and attacking your aura. I can tell one thing. Step back and assess the situation. Sometimes we need to direct the conversation somewhere else, sometimes we need to tell the person to talk about something else. So this is really really important because by reminding others about the core of our Beings are one, the night would pass peacefully without any harms to other souls.

Then listen to your intuition, go home when it says so even if it’s early. Drink a lot of water when we get home. Do some cleansing meditation. Dust off all these people’s energy from our aura. Then go to sleep.

Happy Friday Night!