Life, living it fearlessly and truthfully

life

“You can’t do this forever”

About life. Best friends are those who can give us food of thoughts for us to reflect. But then still respects us for whatever decisions we make for our life.

Therefore I am grateful when I received that comment from one of mine a few days ago. It left me wondering. Really? I can’t do this forever?

Are we living the right life?

So what my bestie meant  by “this” is this life style I live. Living a life out of the ordinary. That is a life which is not following the mainstream or some social set-value of how we work and live. So here I am. Over forty years old, travelling, earning money through diving, yoga and writing. It’s not my interest to buy a mansion or a fast car. Truly, I am content with what I have and calling myself independent. I pay my expenses including my son’s. My lifestyle is quite comfortable. And although I have savings, I don’t worry about the future too much. What’s the point, I live now! So watching me goes by like this, brings a little anxiety to my dear friend who is blessed to have a life path of living in a normal way.

Are we a cookie-cutter version or are we authentic?

To know if you are on the right path, first ask your mind. Most people wants to bypass the mind – and go straight to their heart. But I always ask my mind first. I was asking myself there and then. What does my mind say about working 9-5 at an office? Then I ask the mind, what about having an ocean for an office? What does my mind say about where I am right now?

Then ask the heart! What does the heart say?

Tips to check if you live the right life authentically

If it feels right, it’s right

So that’s it. If your heart say it’s right, then it’s right. However, thank your mind for giving you the advice. Thank your friend for giving you a food of thought. Then be grateful that you are on your right path.

Remember that many people just live, and never be alive. Each of us has different purpose in life, and if you find yours – it does not matter what others are!

Have fun, and never let anything dim your sparkle.

Join me in my next adventure?

xoxo

 

How to practice “Namaste” off your mat

namaste

Namaste. Such a fancy word in the end of a yoga class. The meaning of namaste more or less is that :

the Divine in me bow to the Divine in you.

How to practice Namaste, in this world?

To make it simple, in essence, we are soul. We are not this mind, ego, or even this physical body. We are all this love, or energy if you prefer. That’s the essence of us. This part of us that is divine. God. Universe. So, in realising this, we know that every single beings are just the same of us. In other words, we are no longer separating ourselves from the rest of the world. This is the peace feeling when we say namaste in the end of the yoga class. We just connect! By our nature, we are just yearn to connect.

The challenge is though, we need to keep this outside of the yoga studio. But surely our ego gets in the way. As soon as you walk out of the yoga studio, a minor situation can give you an urge to hit someone with your yoga mat! Because we are not connected anymore. How can we feel connected to those who are so different than us? Then, how can we feel connected to those who challenge us? Furthermore, how can we feel connected to those who attack our ego? These moments of separation are the source of our sufferings during the day, have you noticed?

So, through out the day we need to use our hearts and sense the core of others – and zip through the ego, the intellect, all the differences, and just connect to that space of spirits. Understand that the other being has light too. Remind ourselves of our lights.

5 Steps to keep the light within burning

  1. Believe and trust that we are this light
    Of course, this is the main thing. We must trust that we are this love, we are not the doubts, we are not the fear, we are not the anger. We are pure love. In a moment of difficulties, we can say to ourself: I am light.
  2. Be playful in your daily life, don’t take life too seriously
    Yes! Ignite the playfulness in yourself. Dance in the rain. Laugh. Take it easy!
  3. Get out of your comfort zone
    So, this one can be challenging for some people who are not naturally adventurous. Do something that you haven’t done. Of course, it doesn’t mean we have to sky jump tomorrow, but maybe we try a new dish, maybe we can go and talk with someone we don’t know, maybe we do a new sport, maybe we read something we don’t normally read.
  4. Connect with the nature, do something physical – sports, walk, swim in the ocean, gardening, any move.
    This one never fails! Go and see the sunset. Smell the flowers. Feel the grass. Look at the clouds. See how amazing this world is, and realise that we are magic too.
  5. Catch yourself and step back when you feel ungrounded.
    The more you practice this, the easier you catch yourself when you start losing that namaste feeling. So the key is practice. Then it’s all just take a breath and come back to centre.

Now I wish you a fantastic day, living an authentic life. Knowing clearly on who we really are, and claiming back our power of life!

xoxo

 

Our Dance in Death and Birth

Dancing in death and birth

Death – and birth, being born and dying, are the mysteries of life.

But no matter how we try to capture the mysteries of death and birth, there is always something that we miss to understand. Of course, it is too complex to understand for our mind, and our Truth knows that there are no coincidence in life.

 

I have just lost two of my friends because they died in a silly road accident in this country. I said silly, because it is just so unlikely. The event is just so out of the ordinary. It is like the Universe conspire to take them out of this life this way.

They are my supporters in my current difficult moment, and they have been trying to help in a way they can. So this weekend, one day I spent time with (one of) them, and the next day,  puff, gone. The mystery of death and birth doesn’t stop there. We have our own path. Our mind cannot explain the coincidence of the chains of events, how if one thing would be different, it might have change the whole picture. How us – human beings – connect and meet one another is some normal situation, which in the end proven to be crucial to the next life events.

Death and birth according to Buddha:

The Universe and its inhabitants are as ephemeral as the clouds in the sky;

Beings being borns and dying are like a spectacular dance or drama show.

The duration of our lives is like a flash of lightning or a firefly’s brief twinkle;

Everything passes like the flowing waters of a steep waterfall.

The Universe is under no obligation to make sense to us. 

said the scientist Neil deGrasse Tysson.  So I told my mind to stop trying to understand, and turn into my Self to feel all universal connection. We are just dancing. Just dancing in this universe, facing birth and death and being home in between. My two friends are just doing their dance. For the rest of us, be strong.

xoxo

The True Meaning of Being Fearless in Life

Life Purpose

Recently I was interviewed by Joshua Kangley’s book 7 Principles of Success.

And how amazing it is, to realise that we both are coming from different background and living different lives and in different continent – yet, we talk about exactly the same thing: Life Purpose.  This is a topic that is interesting to anyone walking the spiritual path. No, let me rephrase it; Finding our Life Purpose is a topic that is interesting for anyone who have a lot of curiosity about their meaning of life, about what the purpose of this life is.

Whether or not we agreed on what yoga means to each of us, we are creature of curiosity. We ask questions. Then we demand answer of why we are here on this life. Looking for this answer, we travel across oceans and rivers and climbing mountains to find the answer. Screaming to the world, what is my life purpose? Almost in irony, we actually find this big life answer inside us.

Why it is difficult for us to see our Life Purpose

Deep inside, we have fear.  Yes, that’s it. We are full of fear to see and live the truth.  What we presume as success in life can be quite different than what the Universe assigns us. The success of our life is not being a billionaire, a perfectly form woman,  a super mother or any other roles.

It scares us to see that in order to follow our path, we need to be out of the box. Fear floods us with what if stories. What would my peer thinks? What would my big family say? How would I sustain my life?

Our souls are not giving it up when we steer away from our path. It jolts, and complains. Our intuitions tell us, scream at us. Under the shadow of fears, we ignore all these signals. Until it is too late.

And we are wondering why there is an empty space. How come life feels so dull. How come our heart is not bubbly with happiness. Then to make it worse, we start to look around and compare ourselves with others. How come that person seems happier? Maybe if I lose that amount of weight, I will be happier. Maybe if I earn as much as that person, I will be happier. And on and on, we are stuck in the darkness and feel lost in life.

Get Back on Your Designated Life Purpose Track

How? Throw your fear away, and walk your destiny.  What others do, does not matter! It is each of us, on our own path that matters. Be brave. Sadly, we will encounter individuals who try to dim our light to our path.

I have a personal experience that I don’t mind to share here to explain fearless concept. In the past months, I trusted a person who tried to put me down in a way it is incredible. So, I used to love writings and I know it is something that I do quite well – although still learning. Furthermore, I had a lot of fantastic opportunities with my words, from blogs to articles in local paper. But she managed to dim my light to writings with her comments, convinced me that I don’t belong in the ocean. This person managed to dim my whole soul. I wiggled free from this trusty person, and it took a lot of courage.

Freedom from fear now.

Best of it, I have no negative feelings towards the person, because in the end you can’t control what others do to you, you can only control your reaction. I am writing on the ocean side at this moment, feeling happiness in my veins. We need to be brave enough to evaluate people in  our lives, and brave enough to wiggle free if they pull you into a wrong direction. Trust, there are a lot of people out there full of – you know what – because they are afraid themselves. But remember to halt any negative feelings towards those who try to dim our light. Spread your lights.

Meanwhile, I am back on track, although I have to spend some extra miles in bumpy road due to my detour. How do we know we are on the right track? Oh we know! Our souls tell us, smile to us. Despite anything that happen, our soul will be happy. We walk the right path. We learn the lessons that we assigned to learn in our life charts – which is our plan for this lifetime. We’ll talk about life chart another time.  What’s important now is to close our eyes. Ask our souls bravely: Are we lost, or are we on track.

xoxo

Be here now

quote be here now eckhart tolle

In common sense, people talk about the past, the present and the future as a linear time line.

I have always been fascinated by the idea, that it might not be as linear as we thought it is. I remember I watch the series Quantum Leap with much excitement in the 80s. Imagine if indeed, it is not linear. How much freedom we actually have? There is no past nor future to worry about, there is just now!

At that age, I did not realize that that very concept is what people are talking about years later. Be in the Now, be in the Now! But what is it with the Present? Aren’t we paying what we did, now? Isn’t that what karma is? We are where we’re at today, because of what we did previously, or in the past life?

Aren’t we here attached on our karma?

After much thoughts, I grasped the concept of karma in a way that might be different than how most people see it. Karma is indeed the law of cause and effect. It is common that people would say: “Karma will get you!”, when they are not happy with what someone did. What people misunderstood is, it is not about punishment or reward.

It is about creation.

Therefore, karma is an active action, you can’t just sit back and hope all the good karma will come to you. By doing something amazing now, we create amazing future.  Suddenly our life is back on our hands. We can’t play victim anymore in our life by saying, “It’s just my karma”. No. We are in charge of our life.  If we are fearless now in pursuing what our soul supposed to do, we are going to be in our right path, and life is just a happy moment.

Now, let’s dig it deeper.

We can change our life, now. How?

What about this: what we do now, will change our past? Not possible? Think again. Imagine yourself, in the “past” that you are crying about. Then change your perception of that situation. Let go off any negative thoughts. Fill that memory with positive thoughts, no matter how difficult it is. There is no mistake in life, you know. Everything that happens is an experience that is needed by our soul. It was a lesson. No regrets. No mistake. If we are fearless now in accepting who we are, where we are; Life is again – a happy moment.

Moving Forward…

No one ever promise that being mindful is easy. But the only reason it is difficult, is because we complicate ourselves with all that the ego wants, and those needs are not necessary. Truly, we only need this time. We need to fulfil this time to create beautiful life, to experience life fully.  Right here, right now.

So, the present is all we have, darling. Let’s stay here. There is no need to wait, because we can be alive now. Today, do what puts your soul on fire.

xoxo