Friday Night Yogi Survival Tips

friday night

Hiya my Friday night owls yogis,

Yogi should not go out in Friday night? Really? I’m a truly believer that we are here on our own purpose, walking our own path.  Because most of us live in modern world,  not in stereotyped yogi lifestyle living in a cave, we have to find a way to live our path truthfully – even in the madness of modern lifestyle. I don’t call it balance, because balance means you do something plus and then something minus and balance the both. What I mean, is tip-toeing through your social life as authentic as you can.

Solitary or Social are both okay

If you come to my retreats on Fridays, most likely after arriving on the destination and doing some ocean play and asana, you’ll be tired in the evening and go to sleep early! If you work and come home and you meditate all night, congratulations. But if you have some social responsibilities – meeting friends, colleagues, or family, that is also okay.  No judgement here.

I personally do not go out that often, I really enjoy sitting in with my books. Yes, and do some works on meditation, asana, all these stuff.  There are nights though which is typically on Friday night –  that I go out with my friends and do some social activities. This will involve music, dancing, drinks, dinner, and a lot of chit chat with people. All these things that does not really correlate with yogic life style. Or is it? Can you maintain your true identity while going out? Yes, you can, and let’s talk about it.

Surviving Friday Night Tips.

First thing first.

The energy that we meet. Usually there are a lot of people in Friday night scenes. So there will be various kinds of energy – and these are not always awesome. To protect you from all of these energy madness, do a short meditation before you go. Ground yourself. Sit up tall. If you sit on a chair, make sure both feet are on the ground. Imagine you have deep root growing down into the earth. Then surround yourself with white white, this is your cocoon.

During the night, if we feel energetically attacked – any kind of negative feelings: fear, worries, angry – remember your cocoon and protect yourself in it again.

Then the drinks.

As a dive instructor, I often joke that I know how to drink and not get drunk. I actually do! The secret? No alcohol. Ha. Drinks are the first thing we have to control, because the higher the amount of alcohol in our body, the less sensitive we are to the energy surrounding us. Thus we might be late to put us back in the cocoon. I usually simply take soda water, putting some lemon slices in it, most people would think you are having vodka. 😉

The dinner.

Truly, there are always options. Whatever your diet is, do not go crazy on Friday night dinner, or you’ll crash to bed feeling like puffed up potato.  When I know there won’t be any meal option that I can take, I often have my pre Friday night dinner first. But honestly, there are options. From salad, to plain rice, to chopped carrots!

Finally, we are going to enter the most difficult one.

The people we meet. In many occasions I always manage to find someone who always talk about someone else. Hence, it is called gossiping. The energy can feel sharp and pierce. This can linger for hours and attacking your aura. I can tell one thing. Step back and assess the situation. Sometimes we need to direct the conversation somewhere else, sometimes we need to tell the person to talk about something else. So this is really really important because by reminding others about the core of our Beings are one, the night would pass peacefully without any harms to other souls.

Then listen to your intuition, go home when it says so even if it’s early. Drink a lot of water when we get home. Do some cleansing meditation. Dust off all these people’s energy from our aura. Then go to sleep.

Happy Friday Night!


Be here now

quote be here now eckhart tolle

In common sense, people talk about the past, the present and the future as a linear time line.

I have always been fascinated by the idea, that it might not be as linear as we thought it is. I remember I watch the series Quantum Leap with much excitement in the 80s. Imagine if indeed, it is not linear. How much freedom we actually have? There is no past nor future to worry about, there is just now!

At that age, I did not realize that that very concept is what people are talking about years later. Be in the Now, be in the Now! But what is it with the Present? Aren’t we paying what we did, now? Isn’t that what karma is? We are where we’re at today, because of what we did previously, or in the past life?

Aren’t we here attached on our karma?

After much thoughts, I grasped the concept of karma in a way that might be different than how most people see it. Karma is indeed the law of cause and effect. It is common that people would say: “Karma will get you!”, when they are not happy with what someone did. What people misunderstood is, it is not about punishment or reward.

It is about creation.

Therefore, karma is an active action, you can’t just sit back and hope all the good karma will come to you. By doing something amazing now, we create amazing future.  Suddenly our life is back on our hands. We can’t play victim anymore in our life by saying, “It’s just my karma”. No. We are in charge of our life.  If we are fearless now in pursuing what our soul supposed to do, we are going to be in our right path, and life is just a happy moment.

Now, let’s dig it deeper.

We can change our life, now. How?

What about this: what we do now, will change our past? Not possible? Think again. Imagine yourself, in the “past” that you are crying about. Then change your perception of that situation. Let go off any negative thoughts. Fill that memory with positive thoughts, no matter how difficult it is. There is no mistake in life, you know. Everything that happens is an experience that is needed by our soul. It was a lesson. No regrets. No mistake. If we are fearless now in accepting who we are, where we are; Life is again – a happy moment.

Moving Forward…

No one ever promise that being mindful is easy. But the only reason it is difficult, is because we complicate ourselves with all that the ego wants, and those needs are not necessary. Truly, we only need this time. We need to fulfil this time to create beautiful life, to experience life fully.  Right here, right now.

So, the present is all we have, darling. Let’s stay here. There is no need to wait, because we can be alive now. Today, do what puts your soul on fire.